rubbyducky77 Naturally Entering the World of Chastity

Hi everyone, I hope I’m sticking to the forum rules and am permitted to post here now. I just wanted to jot something down, perhaps to unload some of the mental burden regarding what’s happening with someone other than my wife. I could call a buddy, but I don’t think picking up the phone and telling my closest pals that I’m locked in chastity is quite on the cards yet… It all began a while back. I had seen images of chastity in videos and GIFs, even thinking to myself, “How can that be exciting?”, but as time went by and I saw these images more often and understood the methods behind it, everything became very arousing. I suppose I have always been somewhat submissive. Over the last ten years, most of the porn I’ve consumed has focused on cuckolding/cheating scenarios, which is likely encouraged by my wife admitting she’s attracted to certain men, leading me to seek out videos featuring such men, etc. Then came the chastity phase. We were looking to rekindle our sex life after having a couple of kids when intimacy had become somewhat of a chore or just another box to tick during the weekly grind of repetition. Work, hobbies, children, extended family, friends… It was all getting a bit much. So, in an effort to spark some interest, we explored listening to erotica or looking at cartoons/comics. My wife is a very big critic of the pornography industry, so naturally, I assumed she would think I was a total freak for having my dick locked in a cage and that it would put her off. I remember one time when we were discussing sex fantasies about three months ago, I mentioned I had had a “dream” about intimacy with an attractive woman who then placed me in a chastity device. To my surprise, my comments/story went completely unquestioned. Then, following that, I began including the idea partially in dirty talk, which again went without question. After a handful of times, I finally gathered the courage to ask if my wife would be interested in such a device. But of course, not being a consumer of all the things I have searched for over the last few years, she didn’t really know what any of it meant. Luckily, I had seen a good blog post that described everything from a female point of view, including power dynamics and benefits, so I sent my wife the link. I explained from my side the philosophy behind it as I saw it - more or less giving her an overview of the blog and even showing her a couple of pages. OMG. She read the blog and loved it. She even admitted that she had touched herself after reading it and climaxed at the idea of locking my dick away. Colour me surprised. Like, I wish I had been more confident to do this in the past. It all fit together so well. The thing is, my wife is quite dominant in other areas of our life. She has a great career, makes the most money, really LOVES organizing/controlling her projects etc and gets off on a sexy spreadsheet. But she’s not some boss-bitch or anything like that though; talking to her or being with her, she’s really quite sweet and cute. However, locking me away and controlling my orgasms made her aroused to such an extent that our climax-ratio in the first week has been 9:2. It’s probably a bit of a cliché to say now, but I’ll go ahead and say it anyway, ‘I couldn’t believe it was happening!’ The actual chastity all started on October 2nd. I had already bought a cage on October 1st, but the ring was way too small and it was quite uncomfortable. But as soon as I got home from work at 2pm the next day, I found my new cage had been delivered and I went straight into it, for 24/7 chastity. Since then, I’ve been let out twice for release under the supervision of my wife, as well as a few times for cleaning/showering. In general, our start has been fantastic. I feel personally like I have more energy during the day and I am happy now that I no longer waste hours pouring over images/videos looking for the “perfect” one to get me off. And my wife loves the fact that I am no longer a consumer of that and commit myself to her. My wife has taken to it very well as she is excellent at teasing me through the day, and has expressed herself getting turned on at work thinking about my dick locked away - something she has said to me before, but never at this frequency. Of course, it hasn’t all been sunshine and roses. There have been downsides and pitfalls, but I’ll write about that another time, as I would like to focus on the positives right now and the overall optimistic feeling I have of this new lifestyle. We haven’t figured everything out yet, but again, I will write in more detail about that when I have a chance.