Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

We “play” with chastity but I haven’t been locked in about 6 weeks:(. My wife has been “getting into” cock and ball torture. She really likes it and I am starting to “like” it too, to the point that I feel like we are missing something without her torturing me in some way. I suggested and showed her a “humbler” device since it seemed like it would be right up her alley, putting me in a compromising, submissive position and exposing my testes to some serious punishment. She seemed intrigued. I did a few searches to see the device being used with the intention of forwarding it to her to see if it sparked her interest more. I screwed up. I left the video clip up on the computer without telling her about it ahead of time and she found it. She was really angry. I have had a “problem” with porn in the past but I have really improved a lot since the last time I was busted. To be honest, most, if not all, of the porn I look at it is different femdom things to explore with me wife. I don’t masturbate to it. Most of the time, the male is fully exposed and the woman is not (usually sexy but nothing you wouldn’t find on prime time TV really). I wouldn’t think she was mad at the content per se. I have sent her some racy things via email and she didn’t really complain. I think she was most mad at the thought that our kids could have come across it. I say “could have” because really that would have been very unlikely. I was taking the day off, and it was actually a few hours more until the kids were due back from school. In the clip, these two school girls brutalize a much older man’s balls. They are very rough, and lock him up in a “humbler”. It was way too intense for me - I don’t see how any male could take what he took. What punishment should I get for this? I feel like my intentions were reasonable… I was sort of doing this for “educational” purposes, not to “get off”. I feel like I should offer some sort of penance. Time in the chastity device doesn’t seem to be what she would want. The bummer is that our FLR was really going quite well at the time:(. Any ideas?