Behind Barz discussion

Hi all. I’ve been dealing with a Behind Barz Complete System (BBCS) for over a year, taking it on and off while trying to get used to it without much success. I’ve gone through the other discussions here, so I’m hoping those of you who have had better luck can offer some advice. The first problem is the waistband pinching. Even though I found the correct waist size, my hips still pinch and irritate. It might be okay for a few hours before turning red and sore from pressure or rubbing. Lying down makes it worse; rolling over causes the belt to pinch skin above or below, leading to sharp pain and leaving the area red and tender until I take it off. I’ve been trying to endure it, but it’s becoming too much. I tried ordering silicone lining for the waistband from BB, but they no longer carry it. The second issue is ball crushing. Without the outer shield, my balls get squashed between the cage and my leg while walking. It doesn’t happen with every step, but I can’t walk down the street without a sudden crush of pain in one testicle. With the shield on, the balls are safe, but then the rod holder at the bottom rubs against my perineum (I read another thread about this and plan to bend it outward since mine curves up into the belt). There are other minor issues compared to these two, which I can manage. I really want this belt to work out instead of being an expensive piece that only lasts for short sessions. Any advice or ideas would be great.