Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

You are fortunate...............I would pick option 4 if given the choice and opportunity since what you have is fully consensual between you two and doesn't hurt anyone. What's the worst that could occur? If she decides to let someone else in on it, your girlfriend won't lose a trusted friend because of it. And since this idea comes from her, I would view it as a great chance for both of you to get excited by doing something mutually pleasurable. Lucky you.

The bad boy won't suddenly turn into a submissive male, and if the BFF is with him for a long time, she might genuinely prefer that type or perhaps lean towards submission herself... Or maybe she feels unmoored in her current dynamic and realizing Female Led Relationships are possible could encourage her to leave the bad boy and search for another partner. Your risks are quite small. Even if the BFF spreads the news later, you can easily deny it was serious truth. However, I see potential risks for your GF: having both of you discuss intimate details with the BFW while she is right there might seem like an attempt to pull her into a threesome dynamic—potentially damaging their friendship. The logical choice is therefore #2, stay away. The next best is #4 but add the condition that you leave the room when deeper personal topics are covered.

The perfect finishing touch would be for you to prepare and serve dinner wearing black trousers and a white shirt.

> Giles_English said: > The bad boy won't suddenly turn into a submissive male, and if the BFF is with him for a long time, she might genuinely prefer that type or perhaps lean towards submission herself... Or maybe she feels unmoored in her current dynamic and realizing Female Led Relationships are possible could encourage her to leave the bad boy and search for another partner. > Your risks are quite small. Even if the BFF spreads the news later, you can easily deny it was serious truth. > However, I see potential risks for your GF: having both of you discuss intimate details with the BFW while she is right there might seem like an attempt to pull her into a threesome dynamic—potentially damaging their friendship. > The logical choice is therefore #2, stay away. The next best is #4 but add the condition that you leave the room when deeper personal topics are covered. > Click to expand... Giles, that is such excellent advice. I really appreciated your point about the BFF possibly preferring the bad boy type—I hadn't considered that possibility enough. I would still choose door #4. If you are present, there won't be a million questions lingering afterwards and you can back up your girlfriend. When my wife presents me with options like this, I remind her that since I am locked, it is ultimately her decision to make. Recently, my wife had me show my sister an intimate tattoo of mine. During the whole week she visited, I was dressed accordingly. I was pleased she chose that approach. She decided not to mention that I was in chastity at that time. Maybe next time, she said. I accepted her choice but would have been happy if she did. I look forward to hearing how you decide and what happens when the meeting takes place.

It's difficult to judge without knowing everyone involved. I think it really comes down to your preference. I completely understand that a Key Holder might benefit from having someone else to discuss the topic with. Because I trust my wife, option 4 works well for me, especially if I also join the discussion to share my own perspective on things. I believe the part women outside this lifestyle often struggle to grasp is what men gain from it and how a man who is sexually submissive and denied can simultaneously be dominant and caring in his relationship. I don't know exactly how your dynamic operates, but there are many ways to play the game. For my wife, it was crucial that I wasn't seen as weak (a sissy). She values my strong presence in public, my ability to make independent decisions (including those affecting her), and how I manage our relationship matters. At the same time, she holds the key, so occasionally she uses that power to tweak things slightly. Of course, I would serve both of them excellently. As a servant.

I'd suggest option 2 but perhaps return home just before the friend departs. Is her boyfriend prone to jealousy? It would be unfortunate if a rift developed between your couple because he misread the situation and became jealous.

Option 4. Absolutely. > Sub76 said: > Hi everyone! > My partner and I have been together for a long while, and I brought her into the world of male chastity. It wasn't without its ups and downs, but things are working out great now. > Recently, she mentioned to me about one of her closest friends who often comments on what a lucky catch my GF made with how "obedient" I am towards her and women in general. Her own boyfriend is more of the rebellious type, and his guy stuff usually takes priority over her needs. When discussing these moments with him, my girlfriend joked that if only this friend knew about male chastity, all her worries would vanish. She mentioned, "one day you'll have to let her know." Well, I suspect that 'day' is likely May 1. > My GF told me she invited this friend over for dinner because her boyfriend is out with his mates and she wants to discuss our arrangement involving male chastity. Naturally, she plans to share her "direct experience" on the matter. She believes this will achieve several goals: > - It gives her someone to confide in about what we are doing since she tends to keep quiet about it and we don't belong to any kink circles. I believe having a trusted person to talk to would really help. > - Her friend might find value in the conversation, either for her own relationship or just as an interesting topic of interest. > - She enjoys the idea that I know she has told her... while she isn't usually big on humiliation, she finds this particular situation amusing. > Since we previously agreed to keep others out for now due to one of her ideas, she says I hold veto power. Here are four choices she offered me: > - Exercise my veto; nothing gets shared with the friend. > - Let it happen but excuse myself during dinner so I don't have to endure the embarrassment while they chat about it. > - Stay present as an equal peer among them. > - Attend and serve both of them for the night - meaning servant, not sexual slave;-) > She said this with a smirk, indicating she prefers option 4. She would like me actively part of the conversation but maintaining my submissive role towards both women throughout the evening. > I'm still weighing it up. When I am turned on, knowing her friend is aware—perhaps even hinting at it when we see each other—or imagining my GF having me serve her in front of her friend is very appealing;-). However, when I am not so aroused and relying more on logic, the prospect of someone familiar seeing us regularly finding out about my locked state does worry me slightly. > Has anyone here dealt with something similar? I'd love to hear both positive and negative experiences! > Looking forward to your replies:) > Click to expand... Absolutely > Sub76 said: > Hi everyone! > My partner and I have been together for a long while, and I brought her into the world of male chastity. It wasn't without its ups and downs, but things are working out great now. > Recently, she mentioned to me about one of her closest friends who often comments on what a lucky catch my GF made with how "obedient" I am towards her and women in general. Her own boyfriend is more of the rebellious type, and his guy stuff usually takes priority over her needs. When discussing these moments with him, my girlfriend joked that if only this friend knew about male chastity, all her worries would vanish. She mentioned, "one day you'll have to let her know." Well, I suspect that 'day' is likely May 1. > My GF told me she invited this friend over for dinner because her boyfriend is out with his mates and she wants to discuss our arrangement involving male chastity. Naturally, she plans to share her "direct experience" on the matter. She believes this will achieve several goals: > - It gives her someone to confide in about what we are doing since she tends to keep quiet about it and we don't belong to any kink circles. I believe having a trusted person to talk to would really help. > - Her friend might find value in the conversation, either for her own relationship or just as an interesting topic of interest. > - She enjoys the idea that I know she has told her... while she isn't usually big on humiliation, she finds this particular situation amusing. > Since we previously agreed to keep others out for now due to one of her ideas, she says I hold veto power. Here are four choices she offered me: > - Exercise my veto; nothing gets shared with the friend. > - Let it happen but excuse myself during dinner so I don't have to endure the embarrassment while they chat about it. > - Stay present as an equal peer among them. > - Attend and serve both of them for the night - meaning servant, not sexual slave;-) > She said this with a smirk, indicating she prefers option 4. She would like me actively part of the conversation but maintaining my submissive role towards both women throughout the evening. > I'm still weighing it up. When I am turned on, knowing her friend is aware—perhaps even hinting at it when we see each other—or imagining my GF having me serve her in front of her friend is very appealing;-). However, when I am not so aroused and relying more on logic, the prospect of someone familiar seeing us regularly finding out about my locked state does worry me slightly. > Has anyone here dealt with something similar? I'd love to hear both positive and negative experiences! > Looking forward to your replies:) > Click to expand... Option 4. No contest. Please, if you do take that option, please share the experience. I have fantasized about this scenario for many years. Would love to know what it is like in real life.

Choice 3 or 4. Anything else wastes the opportunity. Let's review the options: Option 1 - I think you will regret it if you make her keep quiet. This likely closes this door for quite some time, and you would probably have to approach her again once you change your mind (and you will). Honestly, she may end up telling anyway, just making a promise not to give herself away. Option 2 - This is only for cowards. You really want to see her reaction firsthand; don't miss it. A second-hand account never quite replaces witnessing it with your own eyes. Option 3 - This might be your sweet spot. If you aren't comfortable being seen and treated as a submissive by the friend, then this is the choice. Option 4 remains a likely future possibility still. Option 4 - This would be amazing. Come on. Do it for us. I would probably aim for a hybrid between options 3 & 4 where I serve but also sit at the table as an equal.

Option 2. If this is truly about giving advice rather than getting your jollies, then avoid engaging in any humiliation, which means you aren't present for the main event anyway. Plus, you'd want the BFF to feel comfortable, and if you are there, that comfort might be disrupted. Or, exercise a veto. That is a valid option and there is no shame in keeping your private life private.

I would go for option 3. It is the least "in-your-face" approach to the BFF; it gives her a chance to react while you and your GF observe that reaction. If the BFF likes the idea regarding her boyfriend, later in the evening you could offer to get drinks or snacks for both ladies and do so as a servant. And if that goes well, your GF might start directing other small tasks to you.

Option 2 if you don't mind outsiders knowing details about your personal life. Option 1 if you are worried the BFF will tell her bad boy and he might come looking for some reason. Also suitable in case you prefer not to drag others into your intimate world. Option 3 is a non-starter. Option 4 is only for those seeking sexual gratification (wank fodder). If you feel compelled to be there as a 'servant', you are letting your fantasies override logic. If GF prefers that option, she is prioritizing her horniness over her friendship with the BFF.

Provided you feel secure enough not to need a veto on the plan, I'd suggest option 2.5. That is, don't be present during the sensitive debate but stay at home or nearby so you are available if the ladies wish to hear your input. However, as others have noted, be ready for the possibility that either your lady's friend or her boyfriend might not be into this kind of play and could even react unexpectedly negatively. You and your lady must take a guess, and you better be prepared for the chance that your guess is wrong.

I would think very long and hard about this, and then decide against doing it. Option 4 is a terrible idea. You cannot take someone from outside the kink world and expose them to all of that in one massive leap.

Whatever you pick, if you just dump everything on her friend at once it could be information overload and scare her off.