Journals and blogs discussion

There is a thread restricted to verified females debating whether sissies degrade women when they feel humiliated by cross-dressing and being exposed (see “Your view of sissification”). I disagree. On my theory (see previous post), the humiliation an exposed sissy feels stems from their awareness that the women they admire—and are exposing themselves to—judge them negatively. Cross-dressing is simply a method to attract such negative attention, much like flashing, with the added nuance of attempting to subtract maleness from tainted male desire. Thus, negativity or degradation arises because the sissy internalizes how women feel about his sexual desire toward them, not because he assumes a female persona. Open to any comments or alternative views.

Hmm, I disagree with some of your premises, though I grasp your perspective. I don’t buy into the alpha/beta divide at all. Most women I know don't intentionally choose bad boys; if he turns out to be flawed, we leave regardless of his other qualities. Plenty of "beta" men are also assholes. Alpha men do have surface-level appealing traits—they care about their appearance, they (sometimes) lead interesting lives, and they make an effort to meet women. But that’s really it. It saddens me to see men label themselves beta because first, they put themselves down; second, they adhere to a worldview that is toxic for everyone involved. I can’t speak for all the women here, but my interest in chastity has nothing to do with disdain. For me, it’s about context and structure, as well as service. Thanks for sharing your theory! <3 <3

Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I’ll have more time to respond later, but one immediate clarification: my theory only puts down **sexually** beta men. Said differently, sex is just one part of my life; despite generally marking sexual desire as negative (as I see it), in other areas I don’t feel inferior. This isn’t a sob story. I’m in my 50s and have strong desires for women where I know there’s little chance anyway. My point is that I can’t switch off this desire, and it is reasonably marked as negative by those women. So, getting sexual kicks by being subbie and kinky when time allows helps me manage it. In other words, I can handle the dissonance between my accomplishments and my place in the sexual pecking order (pecker order??). But let us be clear: such a hierarchy exists, as genetic studies show that a minority of men throughout history have sired multiple children while most had none. Still, perhaps I just have too many non-sexual interests to find time for the right woman. We all live finite lives with limited time. Will blog more later.