Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Where exactly is he applying the Vaseline? Is it on the testicle ring? > Ms King said: > Would a smaller device help? > Click to expand... The optimal cage is the smallest one that avoids other problems. Having extra room for growth can actually be detrimental. You want to secure everything as tightly and quickly as possible. This problem is one of the primary reasons people switch to custom-made devices. > Ms King said: > Does it improve with persistence? > Click to expand... Yes. You adapt to being disturbed, you learn ways to reduce that issue (avoiding drinks late in the evening; getting up and urinating upon waking for the first time), and I feel your body begins to recognize that nighttime erections are undesirable, resulting in fewer of them while caged.

Finding the perfect cage for constant wear is difficult, as you already know. It sounds to me like the base ring might be slightly too small, causing tightness during nocturnal erections. I still experience these myself but no longer need to get out of bed.

You didn't specify the type of cage; if it isn't custom-made, it might be too long. When he gets an erection, it will pull the device forward and tug on the ring behind the testicles. So a smaller cage would prevent any expansion entirely. Also, it's possible that the gap between the cage tube and the base ring is incorrect.

I’m hardly an expert, but I’ll add my two cents. I usually avoid discussing size details, but I’ve included some specifics for context. This might be a bit rambling, as I wanted to share observations about the mechanics of chastity and what works well for me. I am a grower; slightly above average dimensions, 7 inches when hard and around 3 inches soft. I was surprised that I’m comfortable in a Chinese cage listed on the site as "small". It is quite tight even at my softest (room temperature, not arctic swimming...). Tight enough that my glans stays near the tip of the tube regardless of how much I shift it, even when completely flaccid. Having such a snug fit prevents what I call "head ratcheting," where you get hard and push the cage forward, soften up and pull back a few millimeters within the tube, harden again and push out, then soften and pull back further... eventually your glans ends up halfway back inside the tube, pulling your testicles 2-3 inches further outward than before! So my current cage is also somewhat pinchy. My wife will likely never manage to put it on for me; applying it requires a delicate dance, but I can do it in about a minute if I’m not aroused. It took me a week of spending ten minutes in cold showers to master the technique. Because it’s tight—and *very* tight when arousal begins—I don’t get many erections unless my mind wanders, my wife teases me, or during morning/nighttime woods, which resolve after urination. After a few nights under my belt, overnight wear became easier. I drank a glass of water last night and didn't wake up at all, which surprised me. Erections are still awkward; they pull my testicles far forward, but the tightness makes it subside quickly. When arousal starts, I become very aware of the device, even with just a semi-erection, serving as a good physical reminder to curb wandering thoughts! I also have some low-hanging fruit that seems to prevent the pulling sensation and blue balls. *Really* recommend getting advice from others here, but you might try ball-sack stretching for when he does get hard. I believe they call the device used for this a "ball parachute"? Hope this helps!

If you can achieve just the right fit so that the flaccid penis is perfectly contained. I phrase it this way because if the fit is exact for a soft penis, it will "contain" the shaft at that size. However, you MUST also get the base ring size correct. A base ring that is too large allows the entire device to slide forward, taking your testicles with it... while one that is too small causes discomfort. With a perfect fit, the erection remains contained and the base ring only moves forward slightly (not enough to pull painfully on your balls). I can be teased into a full erection, yet my base ring only slides down about 3/4 inch, and my penis cannot expand in length or diameter... so any "growth" occurs within the "body" of the tube while the cage still contains everything. The point is that off-the-shelf cages are great for finding the right size / shape / look ... but nothing beats a custom device tailored to fit you perfectly. I say this as someone who tried most mainstream options (not all Chinese knock-offs) and couldn't find the right fit, until switching to custom changed everything.

> Unlucky said: > Where is he using the vaseline? On the testicle ring? > The ideal cage is the smallest one that a man can wear without causing other issues. Room to grow is actually a bad thing. You want to clamp down on things are soon as possible. > This issue is one of the main reasons to make the transition into a custom device. > Yes. You learn to deal with being woken up, you learn how to minimize that issue (not drinking later at night. Getting up and peeing the first time you wake up), and I feel like your body starts to learn that night time erections are bad and you have fewer of them while caged. > Click to expand... Thank you, I definitely think he has too much room. He uses Vaseline on the tip; he kept getting pinched areas or tender spots rubbing where they poke through the cage mesh. The Vaseline has made a huge difference in keeping things smooth and comfortable throughout the day.

I used a piece of 550 cord/parachute cord to make a support belt when I was struggling with sleeping at night. The rope was soft and didn't cause extra chafing. It also prevented stretching, so the belt held the base ring close to my body at night, helping contain erections for a grower. Now I wear a PA style cage. Let it expand but still can't do much or reach sweet spots easily. The ring has to be RIGHT, and then there's the cage itself. You will be amazed at what he can squeeze into. Get the base ring correct and he probably needs a cage closer to 2”.

Thank you all for your responses so far. Reading through them, I think his cage is too large (he has over 3/4 inch at the end when flaccid) and that he either has a base ring that is too big or an incorrect gap size—it pulls down significantly more than an inch when he gets hard, requiring him to pull it up several times during the day. This has been really useful for understanding what “snug” should look like and visualizing how a custom device might be. The current one is a metal cage, a Chinese knock-off, but 100% better than the plastic ones we tried previously. I didn’t want us to spend heavily on a custom one only to discover that our issues were inevitable or just growing pains (pun intended) as my partner adjusts.

Making some form of support belt for nighttime wear is the easiest and most effective solution, and it’s so simple to do using an old belt or a length of bootlace/string. It won’t hurt to try it out and see the difference yourself.