Introductions discussion

Hello! I’m new to the community and relatively fresh with being locked up, though this idea has been hanging around in my thoughts for… well, almost forever, it seems. What pulls me in most is handing over power and control to someone else. It’s a profound sense of surrender; literally holding the key to my sexual enjoyment and release. I lean towards dominance that feels sensual and connected: she isn’t soft—far from it—but her sharpness comes from pleasure and respect, not just harshness. I want to serve her, please her, entertain her, and demonstrate how willing I am, even if it costs me something. I’ve considered giving up this level of control for a long time. Last year, I bought a steel cage but discovered my anatomy didn’t suit it well. My testicles sit very high; one is almost entirely inside rather than hanging down freely. Finding the right base ring has been tough (it’s quite tight at 2 inches, and mine tends to slide back up through the opening). Getting into a suitable cage is also tricky: I’m a grower, so short when soft, but thicker than average too, making it hard to fit my penis even in its flaccid state. After testing about six different cages, I’ve finally found one that stays put. It’s a Holy Trainer style with a snug fit; even if one testicle pops out, the design extends under the base ring enough to prevent me from slipping out completely. Definitely an improvement. Since I don’t have a permanent mistress holding my key yet, I’m mostly exploring what it feels like to be locked and seeking ways to experience that dynamic of power and control. It’s truly intoxicating. Naturally, I’m still hunting for the perfect device, so I’d love to chat with others who’ve dealt with similar fitting issues and found solutions. Thanks! dw