Introductions discussion

Hi everyone,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for roughly three years, and we’ve enjoyed a very active and fulfilling sex life. We’ve dabbled quite a bit in BDSM, typically with her taking the submissive role while I’m dominant. It’s worked well for both of us and has been lots of fun.

A few months back, when we were browsing an adult toy shop together, my partner asked if I’d consider trying out male chastity cage wear. My immediate reaction was a resounding “Hell no.” At the time, I didn’t know much about it, but just the idea put me off. However, after doing some research into why women might want to lock their men up—and moving past the submissive element that appeals to other guys (but not really me)—I brought the topic back up with her. We had an open conversation about what she wanted and my desire to be a supportive partner who meets her sexual needs led me to agree to give it a shot.

After looking into sizing options and reviewing various products on the market—thanks again to this forum for all the useful info—we bought a CB-6000S. It felt a bit awkward picking the smaller size, but I have no regrets now regarding comfort.

It arrived on Valentine’s Day. When I first put it on, it was surprisingly comfortable despite being slightly bothersome at first. As someone who is usually dominant, I felt like taking this as a challenge; I wanted to prove I could handle it without looking weak. The next day, I wore the cock cage to work. By the time I got home, my partner was practically buzzing with excitement over having control. We had sex, and then I locked myself back in for the night before heading off again the following morning. Annoyingly enough (in a good way), it’s remained quite comfortable even while doing physical labor at my job.

I came home from work one evening only to find that she was denying me release for the night. She mentioned later how much she liked seeing me being so attentive and doting towards her, which I had been actively trying not to do while caged up—but perhaps hormones were working on me because I couldn’t help myself.

I eventually wore it for 32 hours before she finally unlocked me and led me upstairs. The most surprising part was that my orgasm lasted much longer and felt far more intense than any previous ones. Being a highly sexed man who usually masturbates three to four times daily, the lack of physical release certainly had an impact on me. I wasn’t sure I could pull this off initially, but seeing the pleasure on her face and feeling that massive buildup finally letting go made it all worthwhile.

I’m still grappling with accepting such a deep level of submission from my side. When I tie up my partner in bed, she’s free once we’re finished. But wearing a cock cage represents a lifestyle commitment requiring quite intense trust between us.

Does anyone else have advice coming from a similar perspective?

Thanks in advance for any help or insights. Take care.