Female led relationships discussion

I think many of the women here will identify with this, and I believe guys should recognize their own behavior in it too.

This post focuses on (new) fellows who are asking to get locked. As a woman posting here, someone asks me this question quite often—almost every day—and honestly, I don’t mind!:) It amuses me; sometimes it’s endearing, and it even allows me to connect with folks like @Kontraband. We’ve had some fun playing together a few times.

But what always strikes me as amusing are the conversations that go something like this:

Guy: Goddess, would you please lock my cock? Me: Well, maybe you should first introduce yourself;) Guy: Uhm, okay, well I’m John and I love to be dominated and in chastity. I have a chastity device with a special key, and this special key we can lock in a safe I’ve already bought. With this safe, you could watch me put the key inside and when I change the combination lock you would be the only one to see the combination, and then every week you could tell me, so I could be unlocked for cleaning and teasing. And every day you can send me a… etc. Click to expand…

It’s not really that strange to have a complete stranger ask to lock their cock. What I find even more interesting are the fellows who start with “I want to be dominated” and then present an entire schedule setup once they are locked.

Once, a guy sent me an Excel sheet containing a full calendar for his lock up, including end dates, unlock dates, teasing schedules, etc. His excuse: “just to make it easier for you”

Of course I understand that some of these fellows have held this fantasy for a long time and want to live the fantasy in reality, but why would anyone think this is how a D/s relationship, or a Keyholder/wearer dynamic works?

It’s like going to a restaurant, telling everyone you don’t want anything else than the surprise menu, and once you can order you say: “Give me the surprise menu, but with steak, french fries, beans and nothing else”;)

So really, I’d like to ask: how do you think fellows ever get the idea to ask a woman something like this, in this way? And even better, what is the best way to teach them no, that this isn’t how it works.;)

I’m hoping to get some conversations going around this topic, so one day we can maybe guide those people to this thread for more information;)