Introductions discussion

This elaborates on details from my bio. For the foreseeable future, this will be my only major update…;) My sexual curiosity began around age 4, and I became sexually active a few years later. Although I was molested as a boy, I also played with peers my own age. In short, my sexual history entering marriage was quite tangled. I’ve been married for almost 25 years. My wife is beautiful and an incredible lover; most men would envy me. Despite this good fortune, I have watched porn and felt addicted to it since getting internet access in 1995. Often unsatisfied with our sex life, I spent considerable time consuming porn and seeking extramarital encounters. From roughly 2000 until 2014, I pursued an affair. Typically, I would end a relationship once the woman became committed to me. However, in 2014, I performed oral sex on a stripper, which broke my marital vows. A few months later, I began seeing a counselor and realized that clinically, I am indeed a sex addict. My eight-month treatment went well, but shortly after stopping counseling, I returned to porn, felt dissatisfied with my wife again, and resumed feeling poor about myself. We started experimenting with chastity in the early 2000s when I introduced it as a way for her to take control. (We’ve used various CB-x devices; all except the one from 2000.) She never fully embraced it, likely because I was whiny and manipulative. In early 2016, recognizing that I had fallen back into old patterns, I joined a group of other men dealing with addiction. I confessed everything to my wife. I expressed my desire for her to truly hold the reins, so I would have no expectation of sex except what she chose to give. We now use chastity as the mechanism for her total control over our sexual life. It is partially voluntary while I break in and find a device that suits me. Currently, we are in a “rebooting” phase, meaning we abstain from intercourse while my brain rewires. I suspect my wife will reintroduce sex for herself soon, followed by us later, but I have completely surrendered control in this area. Chastity allows her to enforce that surrender. Right now, she is very happy with our new approach to chastity, as am I. Our marriage feels stronger than ever. I’m currently wearing a HTv2 and also own a DickCage v2. The HT gave me some trouble during the break-in period (which I’ll detail elsewhere), but overall, I like it.