Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi all, I wasn’t sure where this belonged, so I posted it here. Please let me know if there’s a more suitable spot. A few months back, I bought myself a snake-style metal cage (for men). The problem was immediate: the pain was intense! The base ring seemed too wide for my cock; it kept slipping and falling out. It didn’t actually drop completely because the device attachment held it up via my balls, but all that weight pulled down on them, causing significant stretching and soreness. After a few hours of trying to tough it out, I had no choice but to remove it. I’m looking for advice on what to do next. I really want this cage to work properly. P.S.: No time for a full intro right now; I’d rather wait until I can write up a proper introduction with some good stories than post something rushed. Thanks for your patience, you’ll be rewarded x