New arrival here and looking for advice

Hello all.

I’ve been doing Chastity in a semi-regular fashion for about a year. We’re starting with the honor system, which is going quite well. However, I hit a snag that I’d love some seasoned members to weigh in on.

It takes me roughly 7 to 10 days after an orgasm (oa) to get back into my headspace, and I absolutely hate myself during this window—it’s essentially like having a male period! Because of this, I want to keep the lock as long as possible; our relationship gets so much better once we pass through that phase.

The issue is that around two weeks post-oa, I get significant congestion in my head. It accumulates until it becomes unbearable and makes me feel fuzzy. The other day on my commute home from work, I felt like driving was a bad idea because the sensation made me feel nearly intoxicated. After reading several blogs on this topic, one explained that Dopamine levels rise, boosting mood and libido, but when they peak too high, they create exactly the congested feeling I’m experiencing.

I’ve noticed that if I avoid sexual thoughts and activities as much as possible, I can slow down the accumulation slightly. However, it’s not perfect because a big plus for both of us is my heightened libido directed at her.

Has anyone else dealt with this? If so, do you have any advice?