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> Nicoftime said: > Following a short break I've chosen to continue recording and talking about our constantly shifting dynamic. In other words, if you'd rather avoid detailed descriptions, complaining (whining), and the odd swear word...feel free to skip to a gentler thread. My previous post "uh oh she likes it...grinning ear to ear" seems to be finished. This new one is the next chapter; while our lives are heading in directions with fewer doubts or questions, things are still changing. > > I'll summarize our current setup and what she expects: > 1. I remain caged unless there's a physical issue or she decides it should come off. It becomes my normal state going forward. I don't pester her to remove it, but begging during play is permitted (this doesn't mean removal; she just enjoys seeing me desperate enough to ask). > 2. I will perform oral sex and/or rimming for her nightly or the following morning. Other toys might be used, and I'll follow all instructions regarding their use as well as my mouth. > 3. I am forbidden from touching "her" penis without permission ever again. It must stay groomed, and I have to report any problems. > 4. I need to inform her of my emotions and moods that could impact my submission. > 5. I surrender all rights regarding sexual duties and orgasms. Her only duty to me is keeping me in the condition she desires. > 6. I accept physical punishment, even crying if necessary. This includes paddling, spanking, ball slaps and squeezes, or anything else she wants to improve my submissive role. We both agree that blood/cuts or severe ball impacts are too much. > 7. I clean up after all my orgasms (I still need instruction after full ones); she thinks this returns me to sub mode quicker. I mostly agree, though it is something she directs and has agreed to assist with. > 8. When time permits, typically weekly, I do maid duties. There isn't a fixed chore list, just tasks that make life easier or more pampered. She may require any feminine clothing she chooses. It doesn't turn her on sexually; she simply enjoys seeing my softer, submissive side occasionally. > 9. A calendar for maintenance punishment hasn't been finalized but was promised. This reinforces her dominance and benefits her as much as me. Pegging is possible, though I suspect she dislikes it. I mainly want it after a long time without orgasm, so it's not high on my fun list, but she has the right to use me whenever she wants. She feels empowered by punishing me, and extended periods without seem to weaken her sense of authority. > 10. Unless others are around, I call her mistress or Mistress Amante. > > We have a somewhat unusual FLR. She is definitely in control of sex and sexual activity, though aware of my desires, needs, and fantasies. Outside the bedroom we are equals, but generally do what I am told. I don't like being expected to act; I feel it leads to being taken for granted. However, I am very accommodating and love making her happy. > > I have never stolen an orgasm, but as proof of my commitment, I got pierced to fully secure "her" cock against interference. The device using the piercing is still coming, and she holds both keys. > > This shows our progress. When we began, she was hesitant and agreed because she liked me and wanted to try it. Now she can't picture life without the key to "her" cock. And for me...punishment, maid service, and ball slapping were strict limits before, but are now part of my daily existence. She used to unlock me nearly every night and rarely went more than a few days thinking I needed an orgasm. Now she is fine with me pleasing her or watching herself while I stay locked. It's not that I want it locked; it stays locked because she wants it so, without needing or wanting otherwise. > > She has become her own person and fully embraced what was once just a role into who she truly is. Just this morning, she touched near my cage and said "you're not taking very good care of my things" (I've been away from her all week and haven't cleaned up there). I couldn't be happier that we found both what we wanted and what we needed. Chapter 2 of our life together is starting. > Click to expand... Good to see you back here; I always find your posts interesting.

I love this @Nicoftime! It sounds SO similar to my situation and that of @Thatguyontheinternet, except for point #7. I don't have a "Maintenance Calendar" for him...yet! But we do share a "Locked" calendar with him showing his lock and unlock dates and the method by which he had an O, if any at all. I don't make him clean up after himself, but I did manage to shove my fingers in his mouth covered in his juices once before he bolted away, lol! As for feminization, I tried it once – purely as punishment because seeing him look girly doesn't arouse me. I've started mild CBT, flicking his balls and light kicking when he's already on his knees, among other things. He handles it well, so I might increase the intensity there too. Outside the bedroom, we look like a normal couple, with him as the typical Dominant male:) I love our arrangement and how it works for us!

Thanks! The feminization isn't her preference either; as mentioned, she isn't attracted to women or particularly into seeing me this way. However, she does like my neediness and the messy state I get into while dressed up. Being alone in it is fine for me, but being with her that way truly puts you in your place. It's not sexual at all; it feels more helpless. I end up melting into her snuggle quite often lol! Oh how the mighty fall: put them in a dress or nightgown and even the most alpha male will curl up and expose his belly. The ball torture is new, and she seems to have enjoyed the few times she's done it. Surprisingly, I enjoy it too. I love seeing this cruelty manifesting as affection in her. I laugh now; soon she'll hook me up to a car battery while wearing spurs! Yeehaw