Female led relationships discussion

Greetings everyone. I’m not entirely certain I’ve placed this in the correct forum, but given that the women in our lives are or ought to be on a pedestal, I decided this was the right spot to discuss some recent emotions and changes. For as long as I can remember, I have wanted my usually reserved and taciturn Wife/Mistress/Keyholder to open up more and share her thoughts regarding how our relationship is changing. Without going over old ground (feel free to search for other posts by me), prolonged chastity and a lack of orgasm have become standard for me for quite some time now. Our partnership has shifted toward an FLR, with roles outside the bedroom (as well as inside it) being somewhat reversed, though not so obviously that others would notice. I am, and always will want to be, “all man,” free to pursue masculine interests when it is respectful of her schedule. She allows this, and I truly value it. She lets me know if I push too hard. So we FINALLY had a discussion about our dynamic itself. I have been fighting the pull of the fetishes she knows are my weak points…to the point where I am beyond where I was a year or two into chastity play almost 10 years ago…back when she blanched, fearing I might want to become a full-time crossdresser, or that I wasn’t attracted to women…neither of which is true. I have been terrified she was a time bomb ready to explode and destroy our harmony. She explained that people evolve and perhaps she has evolved too; she enjoys what we are doing and suggested I gradually let go and stop resisting my fetishes, sharing them with her (no, no desire to be Caitlin Jenner or a 24/7 sissy…not really “my thing”) and promised to tell me if I go too far. I felt better…I could feel my already vast love for her deepen. Later we discussed actions to take, and I said, “That’s why we have wives!” She replied, “Then I need a wife,” which turned on this pig of mine. The conversation was interrupted, but I texted her later saying, “You said you need a wife…well, I think I do my part as a ‘wife’ in and out of the bedroom pretty well so far, but am happy to improve and expand my role.” She responded with a simple, “Get to it then,” accompanied by an eyes-heart smiley. Another comment that makes me wonder if she is latently bi and gradually hoping to mold me into a hybrid creature who satisfies a burning, latent desire within her without verbalizing it too much, while still keeping the “maleness” she likes. She has never been fond of rugged types. Anyway, I was surprised by her comment. She has told me that she shouldn’t have to tell me all her wants and needs; it is my job to figure them out and meet them. While her ambiguity frustrates and worries me (fear that I will do something which modifies her), it also turns me on. Anyway, I had to get this off my chest. If there is anyone here female or male who shares similar feelings with us, I would truly appreciate your comments. …and so the dynamic does seem to be evolving…I told her I will know if and when SHE physically pushes me forward into something deeper or newer; only then will I know for sure that she is truly engaged in this…sigh…the unknown. allaboutHer …thanks for listening.