Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

The issue isn’t bothering me right now since I’m single at present, but I am curious about the mindset and reasoning of those who have chosen this path. It would be great if some men in denial or with a Keyholder (KH) could share their experiences too; it doesn’t matter whether they’ve stayed consistent.

I haven’t quite decided how I feel about permanent denial yet, though whenever my partner has brought it up—either regarding me specifically or just generally—I always find myself aroused by the idea.

Does getting excited from talking about being permanently denied mean that I actually want it?

I am realistic enough to understand not everyone wants to fully realize every fantasy. Consider those who claim they want body parts removed; for most, it’s pure fantasy and thus more acceptable than actually undergoing the procedure.

Of course, entering permanent denial without a partner is an option, and it can be reversed.

If you have a partner (obviously it needs to be the right one) and after some discussion decide together to go the route of permanent denial, once started I would feel a sense of pressure to uphold what my partner agreed to help me achieve. Would my partner also feel an obligation to keep denying me even if she starts doubting her desire?

If you say you are going permanent, do both of you feel you must give it a proper try before mutually deciding to stop? Does having told others influence your motivation? Some people find it easier to quit smoking or drinking when their social circle knows; others fear failure because they feel the weight of expectation.

Do individuals or couples enjoy the ‘kick’ of going permanent, and does that excitement last? Does your sex life fade away almost completely, improve for both parties, or something else?