Female led relationships discussion

My wife has been great with all my kinks. But I do feel a bit guilty sometimes that we don’t have any “Normal Sex”. Yesterday I asked her if she wanted to stop the chastity thing? Or maybe take a break so she could get something more than just oral. I was kind of surprised when she said no and that she is quite happy with all the oral. Then she mentioned that this time I may not ever be released to have an orgasm. I have used the strap on on her but she didn’t enjoy it that much. She says it doesn’t feel the same. So we talked about the next time that she wants to get fucked that we will use numbing cream and condoms on me and if that works then there is no need for me to get out for an orgasm again.