Introductions discussion

I’ve always had an addictive streak, and dealing with porn-assisted masturbation has been a challenge since my teens. Over the last few years, I’ve worked hard to quit, managing success for short stretches—a couple of days up to perhaps a week at most. I’ve noticed that when I abstain from porn, my perspective on women shifts noticeably within just 24 to 48 hours. My wife knows about my struggles with pornography and masturbation; she’s been incredibly patient and loving regarding this issue.

Roughly two years back, while browsing online, I stumbled upon male chastity and was immediately drawn in! I dedicated many hours to lurking on forums and message boards to educate myself on the topic and lifestyle. My initial piece of equipment was a CB-6000 (I think it was a Chinese replica). It felt very straightforward to take out and remove, which prompted me to explore options involving PA piercings. Although I’m typically not into body mods—no tattoos or other piercings—I felt the urge to get one. After chatting things over with my wife, we went to a local shop where she watched while I got pierced.

Twelve weeks after the procedure, I tried on a PA 5000 for the first time. Once I made a minor adjustment to the hook’s curve, it felt like having a close companion locked away. I could see him and speak to him, but he couldn’t go out and play. With all that extra free time suddenly available, I accomplished so much! My wife also appreciated knowing I wasn’t squandering time whenever she stepped out. Wanting her to grasp male chastity better and what it meant for me personally, I bought some books for us to read together… hoping she might take more control. She isn’t particularly dominant by nature—leaning more toward submissive—which presents a slight challenge.

We’ve experimented with chastity over these past two years, but as many of you know, the moment I slip off the device and have an orgasm (whether alone or with her), it rarely stays on again. Since she allows me to ‘top from the bottom,’ my periods in lock don’t last very long. I’m seeking advice or resources on how to encourage more dominance in her. Maybe sharing some ideas or forums related to this topic could help. I realize she won’t suddenly appear one evening clad in leather with a whip, and it’s not just about me; however, I’d like her involvement to deepen so she better comprehends why this excites me and benefits us both.

Any guidance would be much appreciated! Thanks all, Larry